Male Chauvinist

Tay Pa Pa and Mama

Yesterday, I read the Star newspaper and noticed the words of Male Chauvinist（大男人）in the interview of Joanne Yew (2007 Miss Astro International Beauty Pageant). Male chauvinist means the superiority attitude of the male species lingering in the mother earth. 

Genuinely speaking, I never witness male chauvinist in my home. Tay Pa Pa will buy the breakfast for Mama. He would not hesitate going for shopping with Mama.  Sometimes he is willing to be the chef in home by preparing the lunch or dinner for us when Mama has a tired body. The best thing of him is he is the driver of Mama when Mama wishes to go around somewhere. 

As I grew up when go out for study, I meet a variety of people with highly male chauvinist. A good example is my auntie’s husband (can be seen in my blogpost namely Take Me to Sibu Jaya) whereby auntie’s husband always proud to be chauvinist. I observe that he is having the upper hand in all the household and external affairs. My auntie only have to abide what her husband say. *Angry* 

My friend that I know her in Universiti Malaysia Sabah also has the chauvinist boyfriend that will give his old cell phone to my friend when he is going to buy his favorite trendy cell phone. If I were my friend, I will throw the old cell phone to his face. I’m thinking using the high heels to beat him also a good idea. 

The another example is my Indian friend’s father. According to my Indian friend, the male chauvinist is deep rooted in the Indian community. The father of my Indian friend will be finished working on 6pm everyday. Her mother will start preparing the dinner on 5pm everyday. Everyday her father able having the hot dinner. (Her mother used to tell me her husband don’t like the cold dinner as time I have a short stay in her home in Sungai Petani, Kedah). My friend as his daughter couldn’t do anything! Maybe she is accepted and get used to her father’s chauvinist style.

If someone ask me whether I can accept the male chauvinist, definitely the answer is NO. I grew up in the family which the male is not the boss and I feel prefer the guy without or little chauvinist. I don’t like male chauvinist because I’m a feminist! (大女人)

Take me to Sibu Jaya

Update **17 February 2013**

My auntie lived in Sibu Jaya, Sibu. She had been lived there for 10 years from the single storey low cost house to double stories terrace house. In fact, I had  loose contact with my beloved few years ago. Pursuing studies in the Sabah and Kedah  is the main factors that caused my relationship with Auntie faded. Sometimes, Mama will urged me to contact with her. She was missing me a lot. (Auntie treated me nice by buying a lot of toys and stationary for me when I was in the younger age). The excuse that I was used for not contacting my Auntie was it was quite expensive when calling Auntie. I was the celcom line holder while she was Digi line. (SMS can be an alternative to contact her as well)

My flight to Miri on 17 February 2013 at 7.30pm. Due to Rosamond’s flight to KL was in the early morning 8am (we departed from Saratok on 5.45am), Mama decided to left me in Auntie’s house and request Auntie to sent me to airport during the night. At the beginning, I was quite dissatisfied with Mama decision. Few years unfamiliar with my Auntie drove me refuse to stepped in her house. Btw, I still followed my Mama’s decision.

We reached Auntie’s front gate on 7am. Auntie welcome us by opened the main gate for us. The rest of her family members still slept in their comfy bed. If there is a chat between  me and Auntie shall not avoid the boyfriend topic.

Among were the some questions asked:

Auntie: you told me frankly, do you have boyfriend?

Me: really don’t have

Auntie: why don’t find one?

Me: difficult to find

Auntie: have tofind from  now. That’s not easy to find the life partner once your age was increasing. Try to join some social activities !

Me: Silence. I will try best

Besides boyfriend topic, I will also share with her about my working experience and my current workplace. My auntie will advise me have to be careful when staying outside alone. She guided me how working well and managed the relationship with the colleagues based on her experience.

 

The living room

 

Say hi to my Auntie

Can't remembered their names!sorry

  This was Conan

Tied up with her housework

 

They are the best companion of Auntie (the children are grown up, have their own social circle)

Auntie was getting older

Mini radio (look alike the radio from her old house)

 

Toilet of the ground floor

 

Prepared for me

 

Conan,why you hide at there?

My auntie's husband. He was web checking-in(went to Kota Kinabalu)

Continue asked me what i needed in Miri *touching* concerned about me!

 

Nuggets and meat rolls for me

Apple for me.

 

 

This sleeping guy was my cousin

 

 

 

  His sister

 

signature fried rice of Madam Thian Sai Moi

 

Last minute school assignment.She was Ah Ling

 

 

Took care of that plate of chicken head

After waked up,sleeping guy (Ah Hown) became the tutor

He was 17 years old

Sitting like boss that was reading newspaper

From my conversation with my Auntie, I sensed that Auntie was not happy with her current life. She told me “tomorrow have to work, really feel tired. Maybe when I have to start go through 1 hour driving journey and 15 minutes ferry riding”. I remain silence. I could not help but what can I do is being the listener.

I learned one thing from this visiting that was no one can replace Auntie in my heart. Familiarity surrounded when I saw her face, listen to her ranting, the styles that she did the house chores.  I  know that you will not let me alone when celebrate the festive season if I had the chance to work in Sibu!

p/s forgive my unorganized flow of pictures

 

So Long,

Lee Chin