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Wednesday 27 February 2013

感动 “我的幸福和她有关”


“我的幸福和她有关”

他英俊,儒雅,有着不错的工作,是有口皆碑的好男人。没见过像那样宠老婆的,外面的一切应酬统统推掉,每天下班就直接回家。单位里组织旅游,他也婉拒。 同事们笑他,难不成家里放着一个貌若天仙的七仙女?他不回答,只笑。那笑让所有人都相信,他正享受着蜜里调油的幸福生活。

去过他们家的人都知道,她并没有如花的美貌。相反,黑且瘦,个子也矮,粗糙,任性,邋遢,他收拾得清清爽爽的家,不到十分钟她就能把杂志、拖鞋、靠垫扔得 到处都是。他也不恼,耐心地重新把它们归整齐。有客人来,她和客人争吃头一锅饺子,他歉意地对客人笑你看,她就是这个脾气……第一碗饺子,必然先端给她。 有时候半夜醒了,她会要他陪着去房顶看星星,他也去。12月的北方,空气仿佛冻结了一般冷硬,看完星星回来,她像根冻僵的冰棍,他把她裹在怀里,一点点暖 热。

他这样宠爱她,别人都看得清清楚楚,惟有她一个人不懂。是真的不懂,她的精神出了点问题,除了不断地跟他要吃要喝之外,就是呆在家里玩积木,或者把火车开得满屋子跑,用玩具手枪把桌子上的花瓶打碎。有时她甚至会忘记他的名字,有时又会抱着别人叫他的名字。

她以前,也是个聪明灵秀的女子。爱笑,一笑起来就没边没样儿的,走路的脚步是跳跃的,像只展翅欲飞的小鸟。那时,她是精灵古怪的俏黄蓉,他是憨厚朴实的靖哥哥,幸福像一朵开得恣意舒展的花,满世界都是溢满着香。

婚后第三年,她生下儿子,儿子半岁的时候,意外夭折。她就是从那个时候病的,是精神分裂症,住了一年的院,病情时好时坏。医生说,这病去不了根,还是回家养着吧。孩子没了,她又疯了,那一路欢快流淌的乐章,至此“喀嚓”一声,弦断了。

可是日子还得过下去。他笨手笨脚地学做饭,煎个蛋,把蛋壳打碎在碗里,待一片一片捡出来,锅里的油已经着了火。正熬着粥,突然听到她在客厅里尖叫,赶紧跑 过去,她已经把暖瓶茶杯打碎了一地。半夜里他被“哗哗”的水声惊醒,睁眼一看,她浑身湿淋淋地蹲在角落里,不知什么时候拧开的水龙头……他像照顾小孩子一 样,要哄她吃饭,陪她做游戏。好一点的时候,她就坐在儿子的房间里抱着儿子的玩具哭,哭得声嘶力竭的,怎么都劝不住。

很累,许多人劝他,她都那样了,你照顾她几年,也算仁至义尽。趁着年轻,离了再找一个。不然,你这辈子可就搭上了。他不答,只是笑笑。阳光好的时候把她打 扮得整整齐齐的,牵着她的手上街。她用手一指糖葫芦,他就像热恋中的小情人一样,颠颠地去给她买。她再一指烤红薯,他又颠颠地买来,帮她捧着,等她吃完糖 葫芦再递给她。有时候她突然就犯了病,迎着开过来的汽车扑通就躺在马路中间,吓得他脸发白手发凉,也吓得司机一头的冷汗,连他一起骂神经病。可他还是隔二 差五地牵着她的手出来逛街,他怕她呆在家里时间久了会闷。

他们就这样,一直过了15年。15年里她的病情反复无常,坏的时候根本不认得他,把家里的锅碗统统敲碎,抱着他又咬又啃,甚至半夜里偷偷起来拿剪刀扎他,好的时候会抱着他被扎伤的胳膊哭,说自己害苦了他……

这个男人是被读者报料出来的典型,我和做记者的朋友一起去采访他们。去之前,一路想了很多,关于苦难,关于牺牲和奉献。一个男人,几十年如一日地照顾患病的妻子,其中的艰辛与苦痛,不难想像。

到了之后才发现,完全不是想像中的样子:很干净的家,窗台上有一蓬怒放的梅花,娇小的妻子紧紧地挽着男人的胳膊,有着小鸟依人的温婉。光洁的额头闪亮的眼睛,让人无法把她和一个患病十多年的人联系在一起。

整个采访过程中,没听到男人说一句抱怨的话。最后,朋友还是没能免俗地问:这么多年,就没有想过放弃她吗?十几年如一日地照顾一个病人,不觉得辛苦吗?

男人用力揽揽女人的肩,仍然笑。老老实实地说,想过。有一次我真的生气了,想一走了之。但是只下了两个台阶,就再迈不动步子了。是的,我爱她,我没有办法丢下她不管。在她身边,我很累,但离开她,我会心痛,我的幸福,和她有关…

Tuesday 26 February 2013

It's your birthday!

That’s Mickey birthday. We celebrated her birthday in advance. Rosamond bought her favorite cheese cake. Quite a long time in my family didn’t celebrate the human birthday. 

Happy Birthday, Mickey

Look Naruto's face

Naruto again!
 




 

Love this photo very much


Papa and Mama's wide smile
 

Monday 25 February 2013

The New Chapter of My Life

I manage to found a job in Miri. Luckily, the employer provides accommodation for me. At least, I do not have to crack my head to find it. Unfamiliar with the geographic location of the Miri bring me the difficulties to settle the accomodation problem.

Miri is the city in northern part of Sarawak and the second largest city in Sarawak. The major industries of Miri is oil and gas. Shell and Petronas establish their headquarters in Miri. The oil and gas industry brings in expatriates from various countries. Expatriates market make the Tenby International School has spread its wings to Miri.  

Laziness drive me to write too much. Lets the pictures do the talk (about my hostel)

 
My hostel- double storey terrace house located in Pelita Area, Miri
 
car park 

kinda hate this type of memo. Isn't the memo producer will follow what she said???
 
Can you guess how many people in the house? (it was ready to have the shoes shop)


 
Living room with CNY decoration
Utilities bill that will pasted every month by the college staff
  
 wide variety of shoes could be found in the every corner of the home


 
My room number- it's suppose rent to the student...but the princpal cater one of the room for me (part of the benefit)
My room

No more study table when working
Wardrobe
Behind of the wardrobe
become my storage
 
Kitchen
Electrolux Microwave.I learn to utilize the microwave when I move in
There is not enough for 10 people by using this small refrigerator
Gas stove and the different gas supply in Miri

 
My Table
Panasonic washing machine
2 bathroom attached with the toilet
 
one of the toilet cannot be used
The bathroom that I used everyday
2 showers
It has hot and cold water
 
at the back area of the kitchen


 

 
Let's proceed to upstair. The landlord should provides stairs handrails


 
Quite surprise with so many shampoo

Lets me point out 1 of the home hazard analysis- that is ueven floor surface..cause the tenants fell and step easily
 
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